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How To Survive Your First Trip As A Couple

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How To Survive Your First Trip As A Couple

You’ve booked an epic Airbnb cabin in the woods. The firewood is packed, the hot cocoa and tin mugs are stuffed in a bag along with your favorite car ride snacks and you’re ready to embark on the long-awaited trip with the love of your life.

The two of you have been daydreaming about this trip — The car ride together telling jokes and silly childhood stories, the days that will be spent hiking to alpine lakes, and the nights of cuddling by the fireplace as the stars come out.

 Photo by Mecca Ray-Rouse

Photo by Mecca Ray-Rouse

Of course it all sounds amazing, but what if you get lost and end up having to drive an extra hour to your woodsy cabin, realize you forgot a bag at home, or get a flat tire? The long car ride that was meant to be filled with laughter and sweet talk can quickly turn into a heated argument or even silence.

There’s always the chance that things may not go the way you envisioned them in your head, and there’s no way around that, but to make things as smooth as possible, we’ve compiled a list of tips that will help make your little getaway one for the books!

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Plan Out the trip As Much As you can

You will both have a slightly different agenda for what you want to get out of your trip together, so making sure that both of your wants and desires are met is a must. Be specific as to where you want to go and what you want to do while planning the trip. This will minimize the “What should we do?” conversations and ensure that both of you get what you are looking for out of the trip. But also, be open and willing to compromise if necessary. Things could happen, changes might have to be made, and by being flexible you will not only minimize the arguments, but also strengthen your relationship as a whole — compromise is a big part of a healthy relationship.

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Get Everything Packed Early, Because Rushing Sucks

Somehow Monday turned to Friday and it’s the classic, “Oh crap, we’re supposed to have everything packed and leave today.” Then, Friday ends up being a frantic throw-everything-in-the-car-and-hope-it’s-all-there kind of deal, which can make the start of the trip feel so stressful. With that in mind, try to get everything packed beforehand — make a list and check off each item. If you prepare ahead of time, on the day of your departure, you should be able to get in a neatly packed car and smiles on your faces, or if you’re going overseas, two neatly packed suitcases and your passports in your pockets. Here’s a good website that will help you make a checklist of what to pack for your trip!

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Be Yourself — You’ll Get To Know Your Partner On A Whole New Level

Going on a trip together means you’re going to see the good, the bad, and the ugly of each other. You’re going to see the 12-hour flight version. The “I woke up like this” version. The sweaty (and smelly) hiker version. And that’s totally okay, because you’ll also get to see the beach-at-sunset version. The romantic-dinner version. The snuggles-by-the-campfire version. And you’re going to be able to learn so much more about them! Plus, you’re going to be with this person in a whole new setting, away from the everyday hustle and bustle. You won’t constantly be scrolling Instagram, messaging your friends, or having the TV on in the background. It’ll just be the two of you and you’re going to be able to connect on a deeper level. Honestly, WiFi and social media can wait. You’d be surprised how much disconnecting for more than 2-3 days will open your eyes. So just be you and don’t worry about anything else other than making the time that you have together the best it can be.

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Figure (Sh)it Out Together

Hiccups will happen, so just expect it. A flat tire, a wrong turn, a delayed flight, no cell service, getting lost on the trail, or getting locked out of your cabin. Instead of getting upset and shutting down, work through it as a team. A smooth trip is near impossible and it’s these types of moments that can sometimes be the most memorable. Plus, it’s a great way to bond and see how your significant other handles stressful situations. You’ll not only learn how to work as a team, but you’ll strengthen your relationship and be closer in the end.

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Give Yourself Some Time Apart To Do What YOU Want

Whether you put your headphones in for a stretch of the ride, settle in to the hammock for a midday nap, or do some yoga outside, give yourself some time for you. Just because you are on a trip together doesn’t mean you have to be joined at the hip. Going on a trip is still a chance for you to disconnect from the world and relax, and it’s important to take the time to do that away from your partner. Once you have given yourself a little breather, you’ll be excited and refreshed to spend the rest of the day with your love.

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Take In The Little Moments

You went on this trip to do something fun and exciting with the person you love, so enjoy hiking up that mountain the two of you have never visited or swimming through that vast waterfall. After doing these crazy things, make sure you take the time to appreciate the little things: waking up together in a beautiful cabin, staying in your PJ’s while making waffles together, or just sitting and listening to each other’s little stories. Look for these moments and when they happen, tell yourself to remember them. These little memories will be the ones that add up to one epic life full of adventure.

 Photo by Mecca Ray-Rouse

Photo by Mecca Ray-Rouse

So remember, to make the most of your little getaway, be sure to:

  • Plan and prepare as early as possible

  • Work through things as a team

  • Take time for yourselves

  • Appreciate the little moments

Yes, traveling can be stressful. Yes, it may not all go as planned. But, no matter if it does or doesn’t, you went, you saw, and you experienced something new with your special someone. To all you adventurers thinking about planning a trip with your love, DO IT! Because as they say, “it doesn’t matter where you’re going, it’s who you have beside you.”